Keeping confident in the unknown time of the job hunt

Posted by | June 3, 2015 | Looking for work

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The NeverEnding Story?

The weeks tick by and you’ve put in heaps of energy, you’ve almost made it to landing a new job, but not quite: pick self up, rinse, repeat. You find yourself placing a lot more value on horoscopes and inspirational quotes than usual. Give me a sign! When will it happen? When will I finally get a ‘yes’ for a job I am excited about?

“Stay positive, it’s just around the corner”, say well-meaning friends, with jobs. Well, from personal experience job hunting for several weeks, I’d re-frame that message a bit. 251279-NeverEndingStoryYou won’t always feel positive, but try to stay balanced overall. The corners to navigate, instead of being singular, may resemble something more like a dodecagon, (a 12-sided polygon, and not that friendly, herbivorous dinosaur character you had conjured up in your mind). Remember, (much to the dismay of your 80s self), even The NeverEnding Story came to an end (- Atreyu! Falkor!-) and your job hunt will, too.

Get busy, get amongst!

So obviously if you are full time job hunting a major part of your days and nights is taken up by scouring job search data bases, writing applications, and preparing for interviews, and that’s vital for your future. However, the tricky thing is, that if you don’t get the role it can feel like it was all for nothing, even if you made some key contacts and honed your hunting skills in the meantime. For this reason it can be really important to undertake some activities outside of the hunt which can help you maintain your confidence and sense of self-worth.

For my part, I organised a volunteer fundraiser for the Nepal Earthquake which involved lots of exercise and getting $800 for the cause. I’ve been writing a poetry blog which helps me to process my thoughts during this challenging time. Doing things like this give you something to feel good about, like you are making progress. You can even add some skills to your CV, such as online social media competency or community engagement.

Feeling apart rather than a part

It’s easy to feel like you are in a bit of a parallel universe when job hunting, one in which time goes by slowly, and the energy you put out is simply sucked into some black hole as yet undiscovered by NASA. Personally, I’ve found it hard to make decisions when my confidence levels are low: I can overanalyse hypothetical situations (often a waste of time), and I don’t trust my judgement as readily as usual. What helps here is being aware of the kind of situations that trigger these feelings and what you can do about it. Meeting a friend for coffee, going to a gym class, or going for a walk, even cleaning the bathroom: these are all things that might help clear your mind and make you feel a part of the world again.

You are your own worst judge

On a recent trip to the dental hygienist I was asked about whether I would return to work after the appointment. My initial reaction was to judge myself for not meeting up to her expectation of me as an assumedly employed person. Then I thought again, “actually I’m job hunting at the moment”, I replied. “Oh nice, well good luck”, she said, as though discussing the weather.

Remember that everyone has probably been unemployed at some stage, or at the least, through comparable challenging life periods. So actually, by underestimating yourself, you might well be misjudging others.

It’s not all lollipops and rainbows

“People forget that a picture ain’t made from just one color. Life ain’t all good or all bad. It’s full of everything”, George Dawson, author of ‘Life is So Good’.

Yes it’s tricky, yes it can be really tough. Job hunting is another phase of life and if you can somehow learn to smile in the dark, even if just sometimes, you’ll develop resilience, a balanced perspective, and you may help inspire others. You’ll be in a great position for when you finally round the 12th corner of the dodecagon (to find a smiling, herbivorous dinosaur), and get that long-awaited ‘Yes, we’d like to offer you the role’.

Then a new challenge begins….

 

By Anita Perkins

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2 Responses to “Keeping confident in the unknown time of the job hunt”

  1. Comment made by rustle19 on Jun 15th 2015 at 7:12 am:

    Yes for sure, a sense of balance, maintaining your confidence and trying not to let your self worth be eroded. After all, rejections are nothing personal, yeah right, tell that to the mind.
    I wonder if job hunting was easier in the days of just searching the newspaper sits vacant, and posting in your letter and cv. Today alerts alerts alerts, online applications ( do you have pending criminal action, yes ofcourse!). What hasn’t happened is good feedback on why you are not making the short list. Why didn’t I get that “Banana Ripening Specialist” job, I like bananas. Perhaps I spelt ripening wrong.
    P.S. I am sure there is nothing wrong with a banana ripening role, just brings a smile that’s all. Gota smile.

  2. Comment made by Slimo on Dec 13th 2016 at 10:27 am:

    Great post Anita! I’ve been seeking a job that I can give back to my community with, but damn it’s hard! I’ve got a uni degree, so I want to get paid while I help. But I’ve struggled big time. Recently I bit the bullet and realised I at least needed some parttime work for now. So signed up for part timer.jobs – will hopefully find something through that for the meantime until that opportunity I’ve been waiting for pops up!

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